12.12.12

9 days before the doomsday and i'm just like Whatever ...
what i do care is that how in 2010 and 2011 there was a lot of reactions and people got panicked and freaking out about 2012 but now its 12/12/12 and no one gives a shit, its kinda funny huh |?
Well, thats better. Everyone is busy living their life..

Todays date is the last repetitive date we will ever see, so i decided to do something positive, something that not in vein.. but well, let it be secret.. hehe:xd

and Happy Birthday for those who celebrate their birthday today,
espceially to someone out there that used to be my very best friend and partner in life, Someone that wasn't even true.. Happy birthday D. oh yes, i've missed you so much.


hope that the doomsday as we all concerned are not gonna happen...

Well afterall its still just a date , a beautiful one.12/12/12. " at least for me.

Live up\/

be your own hero

Kadang ketika kita berharap akan ada yang menemani kita menghadapi masalah yang kebetulan yang tiada hentinya, saat itulah kita tahu bahwa yang kita andalkan adalah diri kita sendiri.

beberapa teman, keluarga dan pacar etc.. mungkin sudah sering ngomong that they'll be there for us. the thing is, they didnt meant to being there for us to deal with all of our problem. mereka ada untuk kita sometimes means mereka bersedia untuk menjadi saksi, Hanya saksi. !! of how we struggled and fight. Funny huh ??  

To be continued...

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Welcoming December, 1st Post

First of all, I thank God for December is finally here..
Cant wait for Xmass,  hope i could be able to take a vacation back home to visit my parents, family and friends down there... 

I've missed them so much, !

I had a lot of plans in my mind to spend my days in december, and off course some target that i'd try to be achieved on this month to meet the expectations, too much things need to be done. 

I had a lot off expectations.. thats my problem,

like seriously, cuz some say, too much expectations could kill you..

Well,  i hope not.!!

 

Things are as simple as 1, 2, 3. 

But we always complicated things by multiplying it. 

My life is simple, please don't complicate it further. *talking to myself*

I asked, how do you define success? 

Everyone have a different answer to it. Some say wealth, some say a successful career, some say a happy family, some say all of everything. 

I asked myself, and find myself in a dilemma.

Sometimes, I think success is when I'm at the peak of my career, when I perform at my best.

Sometimes, I think success is when I have a loving family, and have excess money to not worry about my living.

Sometimes, I think success is having all I want.

- You are Persihable Item, Live Accordingly ! -

If you ask me now, and hopefully in years to come, I would say:

Success is when I woke up in the morning, and find myself smiling, anticipating the day.

Success is when I'm doing what I love.

Success is when I have no regrets.

and just maybe,

Success is when I've achieve/done what I once thought impossible.

Welcome December, Be good to me ^^

Relax and Live

Hello ! :)
Anyone still drop by at my blog ? *clear dust* 

Saya udah terlanjur sering bertanya pada diri sendiri mengapa kadang bahkan biasanya orang melakukan hal hal tertentu hampir 100% tidak sesuai dengan apa yang menurut saya lebih efektif dan efisien, singkatnya.. kenapa orang orang kelihatannya mempunyai cara yang hampir selalu berbeda antara satu dengan yang lainnya, meskipun ketika dihadapkan dalam konteks yg sama dan akibat yang sama seandainya mereka gagal.. !

Maybe the answer is, we all have different expectations in life. We want to achieve different results. Different aims. Different expectation. Different believe. And that is what differentiate us from others. Unique in our own way. 

Trus, apakah kita semua terjebak dengan perbedaan melekat pada diri kita sendiri yang memberi arti dan merefleksikan pribadi yang berbeda atau justru sebaliknya ? well, mungkin kekurangan dan kelebihan antara perbedaan dan persamaan kita dengan seseorang itu terlalu relatif untuk di diskusikan. tapi saya yakin kita semua pernah sejenak mebingungkan diri dengan hal hal seperti ini.. 

 
What we have to do... is to find a way to celebrate our diversity and debate our differences without fracturing our communities. " H.Clinton "

Ohhh,, Maybe Yes

I took public transport to college today and saw scenes that inspired me to think. One of the reason I like to take public transport is to see and observe the surroundings and people around me.. 
Well, I saw this old man who drove a motorcycle (those motorcycle with a steel ‘table’ attached, we see doing business by the roadside). His motorcycle broke down and he was stuck in the middle of the traffic looking helpless, tired and lost. So, he stopped it on the roadside, slowly took off his helmet and try to cross the busy road. I wish I can do something to help. And that moment, the bus drove away and I lost my sight but still thinking what would happen to him. Saddening scene. I hope he is alright now :/

I like to walk around malls alone when I’m feeling stressful,, My way of escaping from hectic schedule and stress hehe. i bet u've ur own way , trust me mine is way much efective and easier than yours. dont hesitate to do the same.,. hehe 

So, I went to dinner alone and sat beside these two girls who were talking about their planning in life. I sense her difficulty in making decision to stop studying due to financial and personal problem and finding a job. Sometimes all we need is a chance to prove ourselves and get out of the comfort zone. I respect her for being strong and optimistic over the fact that she couldn’t get a higher pay due to her qualification but she also said this “I don’t mind working from bottom and put in more effort to earn more, doing it step by step. I might take a longer time but it’s fine”. I wish her all the best !!! I have the urge to tell her but I just couldn’t open my mouth that moment lol .

we all currently struggling with our activities, and survived each day of our life. this may sound hard but somehow i fu knw wht i mean , I feel better after stumbling across few scenes that touched my heart. its just good to have experienced on something, cuz afterall this kind of hindrance gonna filled our day days coming. Its like the world gives us chances to at least learning how to struggle one way or another. 

Giving your best :)

Relax and Live  :_:)

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What defines you ?

Can you accept who you are?

Everyone is born to be different. Unique. Yet we are trying to fit in what's defined to be the norm, the common, the normal one.

People are telling us to be who we are, yet when we are who we are, people say we are weird, we are the odd one out. We are abnormal.

So why listen?

I am concerned with how others think of me. So often, the thought of 'What will others think of me if I do this?' clouds my mind and influenced my actions, to a certain extent. But then again, nobody really cares about you, how you behave, what influenced you etc. 

So what if I am sad, what if I am angry, what if I am tired, what if I am missing someone? Do they truly feels the way I felt? Or the sentence, 'I understand how you feel.' is expressed when there's nothing else to say? 

Sometimes it's not that we are not being expressive. It's whether there is a need to.

Its What you think you are that matter most.

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When Less is More

The Road to success is always under construction - Just dont stop stepping forward and keep fighting. 

The simplicity of life is not to be complicated by unnecessary thoughts. 

The simplicity of life is to be embraced with a smile, with contentment, with a laugh.

How simple your life can be?

We The One

Not a great weekend, skype with someone that far away. talking about everything, had a good time ; yet ended up arguing each other and we were just like Whatever..and going off without saying goodbye --  #Not Cool. 

To u out there, this song is for you. i hope somehows u'll check this post and listen this song. Our Differences unite us, Somehow. We The One. 

 

SOJA - You and Me

Lyrics :

It's you and me, it's always been

And how I feel about you, there's no end

But you make me chase you around, all around

And then you need me there when you fall down, down

And when this dance is done,

You and me are still the only one

Well since our time begun

And I'm still with you even when your gone

When this dance is done,

You and me are still the only one

Well since our time begun

And I'm still with you even when your...

So I start it, and you stop it

I want it knowing that you're walking away

I start it, and you stop it

I want it knowing that you're walking away

I start it, and you stop it

I want it knowing that you're walking away

I start it, and you stop it

Ya-e ya-e yah-a

It's you and me, back again

Don't introduce me to all your new friends

Why do you make me chase you around?

Why do your words make me not make a sound, sound?

And when this dance is done,

You and me are still the only one

Yes since time begun

I'm still with you even when your gone

When this dance is done,

You and me are still the only one

Yes since time begun

I'm still with you even when your..

I start it, and you stop it

I want it knowing that you're walking away

I start it, and you stop it

I want it knowing that you're walking away

I start it, and you stop it

I want it knowing that you're walking away

I start it, and you stop it

 Ya-e ya-e yah 

Till then....

To read - To Know

I still remember one of my lecturer said that: When you are taking out your books and read means at that time you have already changed. 

This is true! Everyone got 24 hours in a day but how many of us willing to sacrifice their time just to reading a book? Well., Maybe its me only -- hehe 

I always complaint I got not enough time to study just because I have spent all my time to do the other things. Hey, this is what a good excuse? No one is in charger for your knowledge. "ITS YOU"

I have noticed that my face is always thick enough. Why am i say so? Because once I don't understand or dunno what is it, I will ask people to teach me and learn from them.

Don't shy! u knw, Just open your mouth and ask is not a tough thing. 

besides, You will notice how happy you are when you are learning something that you want to learn. 

Ps :: U knw u hve plenty of time to do reading and do some learning. Cheer

Am i Lonely ?

I've been keep asking my self about my situation lately, i totally am alone right now but somehow i kinda hate to think that i am really alone. for sure that we live in a community and we are not alone at all, but my point here is about some way different Loneliness.

I once read a novel, i found an interesting Quotes. Loneliness seems like an Evil dream. well, i must confess i do feel that way. It sucks.!!!

the worst part is i got no ideia at all to cheer my self up about this lonelines, somehow i feel like we are all in this word are alone on our own and that i shouldnt really give a shit about people that leaving together and enjoy their time cuz actually they are just like me, another fucking lonely people.!!!







----- I'm going Crazy  ----  






 
 

CS Lewis Quotes

Till Then

That Dream

 Everyday starts with some expectations, It ends with some experience. Have a great Weekend

Yesterday that dream was creepy.

I scared the hell out of me.

I am pretty sure because I was woken up by it.

Strangely, but very common that majority of us wouldn't be able to recall exactly what we dreamt.

Came across this idea from unknown source,  

"How good if we could invent a pillow that stores our dreams."

I wouldn't say that's impossible!

Someday, somehow, SOMEONE gonna invent it! and He's gonna make millions of dollars!

Well, as much as I could recall,

She was dumping me. Very fierce looking face.

Awww... and How bad was it? Very bad.

Hmm.. But I know she won't, hopefully she'll never.

As far as I'm concerned, she never left, unfortunately there are some changes,

but what can I expect? I was the one wrong all these time.

I hope I could make it up.

It's not that easy, to ask someone to totally forgive.

In fact to forget it.

I'm just a guy, not romantic. Who keeps everything inside.

dare not to express yet wants people to understand.

How typical am I.

I heard that "When you dream about that person, it means that person misses you a lot."

Is that true?

It's has really been a busy week.

Assignment on hand, all done within the very last day, the VERY LAST MINUTE!

Hopefully, there's some quality too. LOL!

Thank god It's Friday already!

Till then.

All they Need

Flipping my textbook but I couldn’t concentrate. I don’t know why, I just couldn’t focus since yesterday night :( So many thoughts are playing in my mind and I think I should blog some of it. 

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Why do people tend to look at the dark side ? why we judge a person from all the mistakes they had done in the past ? why look into the past ? Not everyone but it is very common, we judge a person from their past. I cannot deny, I did that too. Why can’t we give people a chance to change before judging?  Then we can decide whether that person deserve a second chance or not.

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When you cannot utter words you want to say, not because you don’t dare but you have no chance .

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( found this passage in facebook , like this !! )

EVERY GIRL SHOULD READ THIS..!! WRITTEN BY A GUY..

Girls need to realize: We guys don't care if you talk to other guys. We don't care if you're friends with other guys. But when you're sitting next to us, and some random guy walks into the room and you jump up and tackle him, without even introducing us, yeah, it pisses us off. It doesn't help if you sit there and talk to him for ten minutes without even acknowledging the fact that we're still there. We don't care if a guy calls>OR TEXTS< you, but at 2 in the morning we do get a little concerned. 
Nothing is that important at 2 a.m. That it can't wait till the morning. Also, when we tell you you're pretty/beautiful/gorgeous/cute/stunning, we freaking mean it. Don't tell us we're wrong. We'll stop trying to convince you. The sexiest thing about a girl is confidence. Yeah, you can quote me. Don't be mad when we hold the door open. Take Advantage of the mood I'm in. Let us pay for you! Don't 'feel bad' We enjoy doing it. It's expected. Smile and say 'thank you. Kiss us when no one's watching. If you kiss us when you know somebody's looking, we'll be more impressed. You don't have to get dressed up for us. If we're going out with you in the first place, you don't have to feel the need to wear the shortest skirt you have or put on every kind of makeup you own. We like you for who you are and not what you are. Honestly, i think a girl looks more beautiful when she's just in her pj's. or my tshirt and boxers, not all dolled up. Don't take everything we say seriously. Sarcasm is a beautiful thing. See the beauty in it. Don't get angry easily. Stop using magazines/media as your bible. Don't talk about how hot Chris Brown, Brad Pitt, or Jesse McCartney is in front of us.It's boring, and we don't care.  
Whatever happened to the word "handsome'/ 'beautiful' I'd be utterly stunned by a girl who greeted me with 'Hey handsome!' instead of 'Hey baby/ stud/ cutie/sexy' or whatever else you can think of. On the other hand I'm not saying I wouldn't like it ether.
Girls, I cannot stress this enough: if you aren't being treated right by a guy, don't wait for him to change!!!!! Ditch his sorry butt, disgrace to the male population and find someone who will treat you with utter respect.

Someone who will honor your morals.
Someone who will make you smile when you're at your lowest.
Someone who will care for you even when you make mistakes.
Someone who will love you, no matter how bad you make them feel.
Someone who will stop what they're doing just to look you in the eyes....

and say 'i love you' ..

and actually mean it...

Cheer

Seks dan Wanita

Seks merupakan aktivitas normal yang diperlukan oleh pasangan suami istri. Tetapi banyak wanita yang menggunakan seks sebagai senjata agar suami melakukan hal-hal yang sesuai dengan keinginannya.

Ketika suami mengajak berhubungan seks, sang istri kadang akan mengeluarkan pernyataan penolakan seperti sedang tidak mood dan lebih memilih untuk segera tidur. Alasannya adalah wanita merasa lelah setelah seharian bekerja atau mengasuh anak.

Hal ini dilakukan oleh sebagian besar wanita sebagai bentuk protes terhadap suami atas kurangnya perhatian atau ketidakpuasan selama berhubungan seks. Jika suami memberikan perhatian dan hal yang diinginkan oleh sang istri, istri akan bersedia melakukan seks sebagai hadiah.

Seperti dilansir dari huffingtonpost, Selasa (10/7/2012), penolakan istri terhadap seks otomatis merupakan sebuah hukuman terhadap suami. Sehingga suami perlu berperilaku baik di depan istri agar mendapatkan seks yang diinginkan.

Karena kebutuhan akan seks tersebut, pria dipaksa untuk tunduk terhadap apa yang diinginkan oleh wanita. Oleh karena itu, kebanyakan wanita menjadikan seks sebagai senjata untuk mendapatkan apa yang diinginkan.

Tetapi kebanyakan pria ternyata tidak peduli dengan aksi protes yang menjadikan seks sebagai tameng tersebut. Pria tetap menginginkan seks meskipun mengetahui istrinya marah dan menolak berhubungan seks.

Menggunakan seks sebagai senjata untuk protes terhadap suami bukanlah suatu hal yang bersifat positif. Bisa jadi pria merasa sang istri telah mempermainkan kekuasaan rumah tangga dengan mengandalkan seks untuk mengancam suami secara tidak langsung.

Jika pria telah lelah dengan permainan sang istri, mungkin akan membalikkan keadaan dan mencari kesenangannya sendiri di luar sana. Hal ini dapat memicu ketidakharmonisan dalam rumah tangga.

Sebaliknya, wanita harus menggunakan seks sebagai pernyataan cinta, bukan sebagai senjata atau imbalan terhadap perlakuan suami. Seks yang didasari dengan cinta membuat kehidupan rumah tangga lebih harmonis.

Lebih baik menyampaikan keluh kesah yang dirasakan terhadap suami secara langsung. Hal ini akan lebih mudah dimengerti oleh pria daripada menjadikan seks sebagai senjata untuk melakukan aksi protes terhadap perlakuan suami yang tidak sesuai dengan keinginan.

Bahaya merokok ketika Hamil

 Smoking during pregnancy harms your baby - STOP

Kehamilan adalah masa kritis bagi janin yang sedang dikandung, janin menerima zat makanan hanya dari tubuh ibunya melalui placenta. Selama waktu kehamilan, terjadi masa kritis yang berbeda-beda dengan efek yang berbeda pula. Racun rokok yang diserap oleh ibu (baik sebagai perokok maupun perokok pasif), meningkatkan resiko sebagai berikut pada janin dan ibu:

Fertilitas Wanita perokok mengalami masalah reproduksi dan sering sulit mengalami kehamilan. Sebuah penelitian menyebutkan bahwa wanita perokok memilki kemungkinan 50% lebih kecil untuk hamil. Kalaupun hamil, maka resiko yang dihadapi adalah melahirkan bayi dengan berat badan lahir yang rendah .Efek nikotin sangat merugikan, misalnya menghambat pembentukan hormon estrogen yang sangat vital bagi wanita dalam proses pematangan ovum. Begitu juga pada perkembangan lapisan endometrium rahim (uterus). Nikotin juga akan menghambat fungsi saluran telur yang berfungsi mentranspor ovum yang telah matang masuk ke dalam rahim. Bila terjadi pembuahan (fertilisasi), maka embrio yang terbentuk tidak bisa bersarang pada dinding endometrium rahim untuk berkembang secara normal.Keadaan ini menyebabkan frekuensi pembuahan embrio di luar rahim pada wanita perokok meningkat. Selain itu, hormon progesteron yang diperlukan untuk mempertahankan kehamilan menurun.

Abortus Spontan Nikotin yang terdapat pada rokok, merupakan vasokonstriktor yang kuat sehingga menyebabkan kurangnya aliran darah ke uterus dan plasenta, inilah yang menyebakan meningkatnya kejadian abortus spontan pada ibu yang perokok. Pada wanita hamil yang merokok kadar hormon progesteron mengalami penurunan padahal hormon ini sangat diperlukan untuk mempertahankan kehamilan.

Terjadinya kelaianan pada plasenta.

 Plasenta previa Akibat karbon monoksida yang terkandung dalam asap rokok akan mengikat hemoglobin dalam darah. Akibatnya akan mengurangi kerja hemoglobin yang mestinya mengikat oksigen untuk disalurkan ke seluruh tubuh. Sehingga rokok akan mengganggu distribusi zat makanan serta oksigen ke janin. Sebagai kompensasi terjadi pelebaran plasenta hingga ke segmen bawah rahim sebagai akibat kompensasi dari kurangya pasokan oksigen kepada janin.

 Solusio Plasenta terjadi sebagai akibat kurangya aliran darah ke plasenta, sehingga menyebabkan desidua menjadi nekrosis.

Intrauterine Growth Retardation (IUGR) Timbulnya flek dalam pembuluh darah si ibu akibat nikotin bisa mempengaruhi aliran darah ibu ke janin, bisa jadi aliran darah itu terhambat.. Itulah mengapa kebiasaan merokok sering dikaitkan dengan pertumbuhan janin terhambat (Intrauterine-growth-retardation/IUGR). Bayi akan menjadi kecil. Kelambatan pertumbuhan ini biasanya terjadi mulai kehamilan memasuki usia 18 minggu. Terhambatnya perkembangan janin ini berlanjut terus hingga menjelang kelahiran. Ibu yang merokok selama kehamilannya menyebabkan pengurangan berat badan bayi sekitar 150-250 gram. Bayi lahir dengan berat badan di bawah normal, yaitu kurang dari 2500 gram. Karena bayinya kecil, maka semua organnya juga kecil. Termasuk ukuran otaknya jadi kecil. Sehingga sejak lahir sudah tak bagus, maka dalam perkembangan selanjutnya juga akan mengalami keterlambatan. Kualitasnya tak akan sama dengan bayi normal. Pertumbuhannya bisa jadi akan terhambat. Bisa jadi akibat yang dirasakan tak langsung nampak. Mungkin beberapa tahun kemudian terlihat penurunan kecerdasan (IQ) 10-13 poin, karena berbagai unsur kimia yang masuk dalam tubuh sejak dalam kandungan.

Kecacatan pada Janin Pada trimester pertama kehamilan, adalah masa pembentukan organ-organ penting. Dalam masa pembentukan organ aliran darah ke janin berkurang, dapat menyebabkan keguguran atau kelainan bawaan pada janin. Umumnya terjadi bentuk kelainan mayor, seperti tidak terbentuknya salah satu anggota tubuh (kepala, tangan, kaki, dsb).

Gangguan Persalinan Secara langsung memang merokok tidak mengakibatkan timbulnya gangguan pada proses persalinan. Ibu perokok bukan indikasi untuk persalinan lewat operasi, artinya ibu perokok masih memungkinkan untuk melahirkan pervaginam. Dengan satu syarat, paru-parunya tak terganggu, maka tak menghambat untuk bisa melahirkan secara normal. Gangguan persalinan baru ditemukan kalau paru-parunya sudah terganggu, seperti batuk kronis, kesulitan bernapas, dan sebagainya, bisa jadi tenaganya kurang saat melahirkan.

Peningkatan resiko kanker pada anak. Senyawa yang terkandung dalam rokok yang bersifat karsinogenik dan mutagenik),dapat melintasi membran plasenta, hal ini diperkirakan salah satu faktor yang menyebabkan kejadian kanker pada anak, seperti Leukemia Limfositik.

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WANITA HAMIL SEBAGAI PEROKOK PASIF

 Pencemaran asap rokok pada wanita perokok pasif dapat pula merugikan perkembangan janin.Bahaya atau kerugian yang dialami oleh wanita perokok pasif yang sedang hamil, antara lain abortus spontan, kematian perinatal (kematian bayi menjelang kelahiran), atau rendahnya berat badan lahir bayi. Pengaruh penting lainnya, baik pada wanita perokok aktif maupun pasif selama kehamilan atau setelah melahirkan, adalah tercemarnya air susu ibu (ASI) karena mengandung nikotin yang akan merugikan perkembangan bayinya.

PENGARUH MEROKOK PASIF TERHADAP 

KESEHATAN BAYI DAN ANAK

Merokok pada ibu menurunkan kapasitas mengangkut oksigen darah yang terutama akan berbahaya pada wanita hamil. NHMRC Australia mencatat bahwa merokok selama kehamilan meningkatkan abortus dan mortalitas perinatal (sindroma kematian bayi mendadak,dll) serta menurunkan berat bayi waktu lahir. Merokok pada ibu sesudah melahirkan diduga kuat meningkatkan insidens penyakit saluran napas bagian bawah pada anak, efusi telinga bagian tengah dan penurunan fungsi paru, serta pencetus serangan asma pada anak pengidap asma. Bahan dalam asap rokok mengurangi produksi air susu ibu dan dapat melewati air susu ibu sehingga berpengaruh langsung pada bayi.

PENGARUH ROKOK SETELAH ANAK LAHIR

Rokok juga diketahui menyebabkan kematian janin secara perlahan- lahan dan meningkatkan resiko kelahiran preterm. Berat badan lahir rendah dan retardasi akan meningkat dan menjadi masalah kesehatan yang serius selama periode kelahiran, cacat seumur hidup ( seperti cerebral palsy, mental retardasi dan gangguan dalam belajar), sampai kematian. Hasil penelitian lain juga menjelaskan bahwa pada wanita yang merokok sebelum hamil sampai akhir trimester pertama akan melahirkan bayi dengan kelainan jantung congenital, cacat otak(mikrosefalus) dan wajah. Risiko ini meningkat sebanding dengan jumlah rokokyang dikonsumsi. Bayi - bayi dengan ibu merokok selama hamil meningkat 3x untuk mengalami Babies sudden infant death syndrome (SIDS) dari pada yang ibunya tidak merokok. Sebuah penelitian menyebutkan bahwa paparan rokok selama kehamilan berakibat pada kerusakan kualitas otak anak yang kemudian muncul sebagai hiperaktivitas, defisit neurologis, IQ rendah, dan berkurangnya kemampuan belajar.

DAFTAR PUSTAKA

•   Greenfield, Marloria,2007, Smoking and Pregnancy, http://www.drspock.com

•   Riesnawati, Indah Mulatsih, 2008, Stop Rokok Saat Hamil, http://www.yueiwlueninet.wordpress.com

•  McCartney, Joel S, 1994, Nicotine Damages Brain Cell Quality, Neurotoxicology and Teratology, http://www.chem-tox.com/pregnancy/smoking.htm